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Ciuma, first, and foremost, get rid of that "loser" mentality. If you think you're a loser, you will be a loser. You are NOT a "loser", because , A: you are a Katharine fan, which makes you a winner! B: I read somewhere that Kat wouldn't want to get involved with someone with celebrity status, because she is for real, and would rather be with a real type of person. So, you are just as worthy as anyone else!
Also, you mentioned being a sax player? You know Kat likes blues and jazz, she will probably need a good sax player for her band when she starts making music and touring, so get practicing on those licks. Seriously, I think she'd give you, a true fan, a chance, if you show her you have talent. Just a thought for you to ponder.
I responded earlier to this thread, but I would definitely make whatever time I could spend with her, memorable for both of us. I'd take her wherever her sweet heart desires to be, all the time talking, she seems like a good listener, and a good talker.
Ciuma...
1. There is nothing in what you have ever contributed to this site that leads me to believe you are a 'loser', quite the contrary...you are insightful, interesting and articulate...and if, for some reason, those qualities only initially come across in your written presentation of yourself, then you should print out your post and hand it to Kat and ask her to read it before you even start to engage in a conversation...(you should request that the time it takes for her to read your post is not deducted from your allotted hour!) That will save you the time of writing a poem or a story...
2. Shame on you...you vastly underestimate Kat's compassion and vastly over estimate that she always 'knows what to say' or feels confortable doing so....go back and watch the audition video...that's our Kat...more so than the glamour girl presented to the viewing public each week If she is not...then we have all made the wrong choice...please tell me you're not telling us we've made the wrong choice.
3. Jumping into a social conversation can be like 'double-dutch' skipping....it's sometimes hard to get the rhythm and know when to jump in...but to be interesting you must be interested...so with Kat or anyone else...don't focus on yourself...start to find out about them...the rest will flow as you establish common points of interest...if it doesn't...then you're with the 'wrong band' anyway..move on.
4. Now go to your fridge, get your favorite beverage...some ice cream if you must...and sit down and repeat 100 times 'I am a lot better person than I think I am.' !!
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